“And the danger is that in this move toward new horizons and far directions, that I may lose what I have now, and not find anything except loneliness.”
—Sylvia Plath (via creatingaquietmind)
May 2013
4 posts
“You tried to change, didn’t you? Closed your mouth more, tried to be softer, prettier, less volatile, less awake…You can’t make homes out of human beings. Someone should have already told you that.”
—Warsan Shire (via ambling)
مآ أجمّل أنْ تصمتْ
فيْ ؤجهْ منْ ينتظرْ منِك الخِصَاموما أجمل أنْ تضحك
فيْ وجهْ منْ يُنتظرْ منك البكـاءْHow beautiful is it to stay silent
When someone expects you to be enraged from them.
And how beautiful it is to laugh
When someone thinks you are going to shed tears.
“Well, let it pass, he thought; April is over, April is over. There are all kinds of love in the world, but never the same love twice.”
—F. Scott Fitzgerald, Magnetism
April 2013
4 posts
“And if you couldn’t be loved, the next best thing was to be let alone.”
—L.M. Montgomery (via moonbrains)
“The biggest coward is a man who awakens a woman’s love with no intention of loving her.”
—Bob Marley (via westcoastkid)
Oh my god
(via ne—oublie)
“What horrifies me most is the idea of being useless: well-educated, brilliantly promising, and fading out into an indifferent middle age.”
—Sylvia Plath (via villere)
“The first and final thing you have to do in this world is to last it and not be smashed by it.”
—Ernest Hemingway (via fuckoff-mondays)
March 2013
1 post
“The loneliest moment in someone’s life is when they are watching their whole world fall apart, and all they can do is stare blankly.”
—F. Scott Fitzgerald, The Great Gatsby (via n-ullibicity)
February 2013
3 posts
“& i’m not one for missed adventures
so i answered with a smile” —
so i answered with a smile” —
“Respect yourself enough to walk away from anything that no longer
serves you,
grows you,
or makes you happy.” —
serves you,
grows you,
or makes you happy.” —
“in order to leave you in my past
i had to walk away from part of myself.
x.” —
i had to walk away from part of myself.
x.” —
January 2013
3 posts
“You either like me or you don’t. It took me Twenty-something years to learn how to love myself, I don’t have that kinda time to convince somebody else.”
—Daniel Franzese
“Be happy for no reason, like a child. If you are happy for a reason, you’re in trouble, because that reason can be taken from you.”
—Deepak Chopra
December 2012
6 posts
“I know exactly how that is. To love somebody who doesn’t deserve it. Because they are all you have. Because any attention is better than no attention.”
—Augusten Burroughs, Running with Scissors
“The best people possess a feeling for beauty, the courage to take risks, the discipline to tell the truth, the capacity for sacrifice. Ironically, their virtues make them vulnerable; they are often wounded, sometimes destroyed.”
—Ernest Hemingway
November 2012
15 posts
“#remember spring swaps snow for leaves
and it finally hit me…
i’m your summer. and i always was.
i was never real.
and my heart told my head. this time no.
” —
“I’m lost. And it’s my own fault. It’s about time I figured out that I can’t ask people to keep me found.”
—Anne Sexton
“Apply this to your life, even at the micro level: Are you fighting a hard battle by trying to fix something that is probably unfixable…or are you building something new and better to replace it?”
—Tucker Max
“It’s weird, but super-high-stress situations seem to bring a calm over me. If my vacuum cleaner won’t start, I get enraged and freak out and can’t deal with it. But put me in a ten-car pile-up or bar fight or something like that, and I’m calm as a baby on Benadryl. That’s one of the few benefits of having parents who are yellers; you learn from a young age how to stay calm in the face of serious stress and trauma.”
—Tucker Max, Assholes Finish First
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“My worry is that what you measure yourself with ends up defining you.
You pour yourself into the thing that measures you and it defines you.
And I just hope that one day you find out that
you’re fuller when you measure yourself in
love
and
people
and
moments,
instead of
things, adoration and money.”
“I am
a series of
small victories
and large defeats
and I am as
amazed
as any other
that
I have gotten
from there to
here.” —Charles Bukowski, “The People Look Like Flowers At Last” (via anditslove)
a series of
small victories
and large defeats
and I am as
amazed
as any other
that
I have gotten
from there to
here.” —Charles Bukowski, “The People Look Like Flowers At Last” (via anditslove)
whatever happened
yesterday is over
let’s write another story tonight
after all the time is gone
i’ll have morningIt’s been a long way back. From the edge of that.
“ she knows how to have fun. she does what she wants to do when she wants to do it and she has fun. and then she thinks about that fun and she learns from that fun. ”
—~girls.
“…The world breaks every one and afterward many are strong at the broken places. But those that will not break it kills. It kills the very good and the very gentle and the very brave impartially. If you are none of these you can be sure it will kill you too but there will be no special hurry.”
— Ernest Hemingway
“It was right around this date in November when I was 27 years old that i remember looking at a 0 dollar bank balance at the ATM…” Mark Cuban, Nov. 5, 2012”
—
“at the end of the day its all about reprocessing the world around us and this will happen no matter how hard entertainment conglomerates and an older generation tries to control these processes. were in a delirium of satuation — were never going to remember anything exactly [the way it happened]. memories become even more fragmented and subjective. do you want to have a bored delirium or a more exciting one?”
—
“I have two options. One: dignity. Two: a good story to tell later.”
— a girl who fucked Tucker Max
“Some people act mature and responsible their entire lives, and we call those people nerds. Other people never get the memo that there’s no such thing as “spring break in Panama” when you’re fucking 35, and we call those people losers. For the rest of us, over a period of time we slowly shed our college selves and become a little more refined and a little less ridiculous. I still like to get shitfaced and make women uncomfortable, but I’m not doing it in some gigantic 18-and-up club after blowing some nose candy on the arm of my bro’s futon anymore. Sometimes you wake up one day and realize you’ve been in this phase for a while (holy shit, did I really not go out last Saturday?), and sometimes it happens as a sort of epiphany.”
—ask a pro, -Betcheslovethis
“But here’s the thing about being honest: All the liars HATE you for it, and most of the people in the world are liars. They lie to their bosses, they lie to their families, they lie to themselves, they lie so much they don’t even know they’re lying anymore. If you have the courage to be honest–even a little bit–all those liars will hate you, because your honesty reflects their lie back on them.”
— Tucker Max (via attababe)
October 2012
16 posts
“but you watch your back
you watch your back
you’re growing eyes in the back of your head
to prevent another sneak attack
sneak attack
you must be keepin’ secret weapons in your fanny pack” —jason mraz
you watch your back
you’re growing eyes in the back of your head
to prevent another sneak attack
sneak attack
you must be keepin’ secret weapons in your fanny pack” —jason mraz
“Life is not handed to you; it takes work, creativity, dedication and innovation. Eventually you have to grow up and prioritize things besides the party, but that is okay, because you will want to. Being mature doesn’t have to be about sacrifice and becoming lame, because if you have lived your youth without fear you will be ready to move on.”
—Toni Nagy
“I swear I’d burn this city down to show you the light.”
—
“You can ask the universe for all the signs you want, but ultimately, we see what we want to see when we’re ready to see it.”
—How I Met Your Mother
“When you get bit by a snake, you have to suck out all the poison. That’s what I had to do, suck all the poison out of my life.” – Cady Heron”
—#meangirls
PROLOGUE
There’s an old poem by Neruda that I’ve always been captivated by, and one of the lines in it has stuck with me ever since the first time I read it. It says ”love is so short, forgetting is so long.” It’s a line I’ve related to in my saddest moments, when I needed to know someone else had felt that exact same way. And when we’re trying to move on, the moments we always go back to aren’t the mundane ones. They are the moments you saw sparks that weren’t really there, felt stars aligning without having any proof, saw your future before it happened, and then saw it slip away without any warning. These are moments of newfound hope, extreme joy, intense passion, wishful thinking, and in some cases, the unthinkable letdown. And in my mind, every one of these memories looks the same to me. I see all of these moments in bright, burning, red.
My experiences in love have taught me difficult lessons, especially my experiences with crazy love. The red relationships. The ones that went from zero to a hundred miles per hour and then hit a wall and exploded. And it was awful. And ridiculous. And desperate. And thrilling. And when the dust settled, it was something I’d never take back. Because there is something to be said for being young and needing someone so badly, you jump in head first without looking. And there’s something to be learned from waiting all day for a train that’s never coming. And there’s something to be proud of about moving on and realizing that real love shines golden like starlight, and doesn’t fade or spontaneously combust. Maybe I’ll write a whole album about that kind of love if I ever find it. But this album is about the other kinds of love that I’ve recently fallen in and out of. Love that was treacherous, sad, beautiful, and tragic. But most of all, this record is about love that was red.
_ Taylor Swift.
“The only people who spout anti-love drivel are the defeated emo navel gazers who were hurt at some point in their lives and refuse to face the pain and get over it, so instead they spread toxic bullshit like a festering boil. Get over yourself, get past your pain, and quit being stupid. When it’s right, love is awesome.”
—Tucker Max
“
What kind of life did I want to lead? One I loved, one I was proud of, and one that made me happy? Or a life that other people told me I was supposed to lead…but I hated. What kind of person was I going to be? Just another sheep? Another cog in the machine, working a crappy job that I couldn’t stand? Or was I going to be the type of person who blazed my own trail and made an awesome life that I loved living? I realized I had a choice to make: I could swallow my pride, go back to the corporate machine, and try to be a lawyer or businessman, but this time make sure I acted like a sheep and did it their way…or do something where I carved my own path in life and didn’t have to eat anyone else’s shit, something I really loved doing. Looking at it that way, there wasn’t really a choice. I had to leave that world and go create my own life. It came down to one simple thing for me:
Everyday I have to wake up and look at myself in the mirror, and if I’m not excited to live the day in front of me, proud of who I am and what I’m spending my time doing…then what’s the fucking point?
” —Tucker Max (a god in a mans body)
“See people for who they are, not who you want them to be.”
—tucker max.
“‘Cause you don’t always have to hold your head higher than your heart..”
—
“When I say, ‘I love you,’ it’s not because I want you or because I can’t have you. It has nothing to do with me. I love what you are, what you do, how you try. I’ve seen your kindness and your strength. I’ve seen the best and the worst of you. And I understand with perfect clarity exactly what you are. You’re a hell of a person.”
—Joss Whedon
